If you've been a long-time follower of my blog, you know that I've been trying to find a comprehensive list of kinks almost from the very beginning of my kink exploration. Last night, I finally decided to take matters into my own hands:
This morning, I sent the list to my Daddy, and he (unwisely) began reading it while traveling and we've both been turned on by it (me, making it and hearing his thoughts; him, reading it). If you're interested in seeing the (blank) list, you can check it out below. And while seeing a written list of a bunch of kinks isn't as fun as doing them, seeing what I can and won't do, then imagining doing the ones I like is very hot in my opinion. And therefore, it counts for this Masturbation Monday.
Comment below and let me know if you've ever used a kink checklist. And if not, how did you decide on your limits? Was it a trial by fire? Or did you just "know" without having to read or write any of it down?
For the past 2 weekends, the Dom I’m seeing (who has inspired all my recent hypnosis stories) surprised me by first coming into the city and then inviting me to visit him for this past weekend. And it was glorious.
When he messaged me with an impromptu invitation to visit, I actually squealed out loud. I clearly let my little side out, then promptly had to stuff it away as I made my travel arrangements. And then I was counting down the 72 hours until I could be in his arms—and his bed—again. And once I arrived there (with a few mishaps), I floated up to Cloud 9 and didn't come back down until we said goodbye.
The following is a real story (for a change):
We'd been texting consistently since the movie date, and here's just a little taste of what we did the morning of our date:
Now, without spoiling too much, I will say that some of these things came to pass that night. So, let me get back to the story.
He surprised me at our meet up spot, and we spent some time walking around Times Square and taking the subway to different stores to find me my first stuffie (which he was generous enough to get for me). And while at first, he only held my hand, and guided me with a hand on the small of my back through the crowds, as the night went on, his hands wandered more, and his words became filthier in my ear: almost always teasing me about how needy I was becoming. And that teasing never failed to make me even wetter.
Last week, I had more than a few times I saw some different Facebook friends sharing some pretty kinky memes that had me double-checking that I was on Facebook and not my Twitter. And then it got even crazier.
On my 21st birthday, I went out to drinks with a friend and learned that not only was she kinky, but that she's a switch (and most importantly, willing to go to Paddles NYC with me sometime in the future)! Funny how even in my vanilla life I attracted a kinky friend.
Have your kinky and vanilla ever collided serendipitously? Tell me down below.
Today I made a decision I'd been thinking about for a few weeks. I ended things with my Dom. We ended on amicable terms after I clearly stated that my needs weren't being met and that we clearly had different priorities. I needed more rules, tasks, structure, and communication than he was able to provide.
So, I'm still talking to this guy, getting to know him, and getting a little sexual, but I'm now running into a problem: opposite schedules. His work has crazy hours and makes him really tired. My work is 9-5, but I'm normally exhausted by the end. I know life happens, but I miss when we used to chat more regularly. It's been a week since we had a "real-time" conversation. I told him I needed more attention and he asked if I was giving up. I told him no, but I wish I knew when his breaks were so we could at least chat during the afternoon during my "lunch break" (I don't technically get time off, but I'm sneaky with my phone). Does anyone have any tips on how to handle this LDR difficulty?
I've been thinking about BDSM for a while. For about 2 years, to be precise. But I haven't had an in-person Dom yet. I briefly submitted to someone on Tumblr, but had to stop when school was too much and he started demanding things too quickly. Boy, bye. That ended mid-April.
But for the past few weeks, I've been logging onto Tumblr every night when I was supposed to be asleep. I started messaging a few Doms, and today I found one who I really like. I'm not rushing into anything, but he has a way with words (his description of how he'd take my virginity had me soaking) and I'd be lying if I said I wasn't excited whenever he messages me. So, we'll see where this goes. Here's hoping it keeps going well.
So... I joined Fetlife about 2 years ago on the recommendation of a BDSM erotica author during a chat on Goodreads. And I got scared off almost immediately by all the people immediately asking to be my Dom. The answer is no if you ask right off the bat. But I'm finally logging back in because the importance of munches has been made very clear. I can't do them when I'm home from school, but I can't wait to meet some people once I'm back. In the meantime, I'm focusing on doing even more research so I can be a good submissive when I eventually find a Dom.
It's only been a month, but the guy who was "training" me as a sub was moving way too fast. So, today, I said goodbye. He wanted to be my Dom, and wanted me to be a slave—something I thought I wanted but now realize is too much for me (at least right now). I don't wish anything had happened differently, he didn't scare me off from BDSM, but I will be taking a break to finish up my school year and get my life in order (for the past 2 years, I've struggled with depression, and I'm finally trying to tackle that so it can't get the best of me in the future). So, for now, I'm putting a pause on my BDSM exploration. But I'll be back.
I've been fantasizing about BDSM and submitting for about 2 years at this point (on and off because school gets in the way of everything fun), but today was the first time I really started chatting with a Dom who didn't immediately give me weird vibes. He said he'd train me and it'd be LDR, I'm being careful to protect myself and I doubt it'll really go anywhere, but I'm excited all the same.
What was your first experience with BDSM?