30 Days of D/s: Day 4

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​Negotiation is a fancy word for talking about your D/s relationship: People read the word “negotiation” and imagine some sort of back and forth thing around a table in a formal way. It can be that, sure, but mostly it’s just the conversation you have to figure out what kind of D/s relationship you want for yourself. Submissives have the right to, and should, ask why a rule/task/ritual is being put in place and both sides should have the freedom to disagree, suggest other things, and make sure their needs are being met.
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Negotiations aren’t a one time thing either. You’ll come back to this over and over again in your relationship. 

​Will you have a contract? Do you need a checklist? What exactly does a negotiation sound like? Consider all of these things as you think about negotiating your (current or future) D/s relationship.

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I would like to have a contract, at least at the beginning to outline limits, rituals, and protocols for the relationship in concrete terms. Since I'm still so new to all things kinky, I definitely need a checklist to explore what's out there (feel free to comment on that post, too). I have a whole list of links to checklists, but one I like is by LovingBDSM. You can get it for free by signing up for their mailing list on their site.