Abigail was about ready to explode by the end of dinner. Her Master had taken her to the fancy new European-style restaurant that had communal seating, meaning he had been playing with her non-stop since the time they sat down to when he paid the check and escorted her into the car service back to his place. And he'd placed his bag on the floor between them, which meant her foot pressed against the aged leather as a constant reminder of what was to come.
When he opened the door, he reached under her dress and gave one pinch to her clit, and said, "Go into the playroom and strip."
She walked down the hallway on shaky legs toward the second bedroom that he had converted into his personal playroom. She unzipped her dress and stepped out of her heels. She folded the fabric and placed it on the chair in the corner and placed her shoes underneath it. Then she knelt at the foot of the bed and waited for her Master to come in.
I've been meaning to return to this blog ever since my last post here. Life got crazy and my only outlet for my kinkiness has been through my Tumblr. But since I learned that I made it as #88 on the Molly's Daily Kiss' Top Sex Blogger List of 2017, and John Brownstone of (LovingBDSM) requested I do a specific topic for Masturbation Monday. Sidenote: Kayla Lords of Loving BDSM made it to #1 on that list.
And now let's get down to business: my new Masturbation Monday story.
Helena was on Tumblr again, and growing wetter by the minute. She knew her professor had forbidden it, but she couldn't resist given she had already been horny the moment she woke up. And as her last class of the day, her attention wasn't fully there.
When class ended, a male classmate turned to her and said, "would you like to grab a coffee with me some time?"
She was about to answer when her professor's voice rang out sharply: "Helena, I need to speak to you. Now."
She shrugged apologetically and made her way down the auditorium stairs to her professor who eyed her with intense disapproval.
"You didn't follow orders. Pack up your things and come to my office."
When she arrived at his office, she wasn't surprised this time when he closed the door and locked it. His next order, however, did. "Strip."
She hesitated, but did as she was told.
She did, and he immediately pressed his erection against her lips. She opened her mouth, understanding the silent command.
He slid in and out slowly, completely stretching her mouth with his girth as he spoke. "I specifically told you Helena to not let me catch you misbehaving again. And what do I feel during my lecture?" He gripped her hair tightly as he pushed himself deep and held still. She whined at the pressure and focused on breathing through her nose. "My phone buzzing every single time your dirty little mind reblogged something on Tumblr." He pulled out, still hard, and pulled her to standing. He wrapped a hand around her throat and squeezed slightly. "You directly disobeyed me, Helena. What should I do about that?"
What does this all mean? Take a look back at any posts or emails you wrote, notes you took. Think back to conversations you’ve had.
I'm going to take this prompt one by one.
The D/s dynamic that works for you: We talk about D/s in very general terms as “Dominance and submission” but it can mean so much more. Are you into Caregiver/little (Daddy Dom, Mommy, littles, babygirl/boy)? Maybe Master/slave? Handler and puppy? Just like our kinks, our relationship can be anything we make of it. You can be a little of everything, depending on your mood, your partner, and what works for you right now in your life.
If you’re not sure what dynamic you want, this may be a good time to explore and think about your options. If you’re in a relationship right now, we encourage you to think of the other aspects of D/s that intrigue you and see if there’s a way you can explore that.
Like I said with D/s titles, I consider myself a "submissive." I'm a bit of a little (no age regression) and I do want a Daddy. Simultaneously, I want a Master who can be caring (maybe that's just want rather than a full-on Daddy Dom—I'm still trying to figure that part out). I, myself, aspire to be a slave, but that's unrealistic right now as I'm in school and in a LDR. I think my dynamic may change as my life situation changes, and I'm okay with that.
Exploring your kinks together: D/s is a power exchange relationship. It’s a kink, but it’s not all the kinks out there. In your D/s relationship, in order to keep it healthy and vibrant, you’ve both got to grow - together. Part of this might be in exploring your kinks together.
Today, if you’re in a relationship, it may be time to talk about kinks you’d both like to try but haven’t yet. Find what aligns or what you both find interesting and start exploring. If you’re single, make a list of the kinky things you’d like to try with a partner.
When I started becoming interested in BDSM and reading an increasing number of BDSM-flavored romance novels, I was also keeping a mental tally of what turned me on and what was never going to happen. That being said, I'm still exploring my kinks. If you have any resources (e.g. a glossary of kinks or a checklist) please tell me. I'm always looking for new information.
For couples, LovingBDSM has recommended Simpatic, a service where for $40, a couple makes an account and individually fills out a questionnaire then receives a report on where there are shared or complementary kinks. I hope to eventually do this with my Dom to get a more thorough understanding of our shared interests, but early on we realized we already shared quite a few.
Being D/s and Being Parents: There’s still a pervasive myth out there that if you have kids you’re not allowed to be kinky or that it’s impossible. Of course you’re allowed to be kinky and as parents ourselves, we can promise it’s definitely possible. Just like anything with parenting, you’ve got to learn to be very quiet and extremely creative.
If you’re a parent, today is a day to think about how you make your D/s work (or how you can make it work) while raising kids. And if you’re not a parent yet, imagine how you might handle things if you have children.
So, despite having a huge impregnation fantasy, I'm not actually sure I want to have kids. If I ever do and am in a D/s relationship, I would keep the D/s relationship 24/7, but much subtler than it had been behind closed doors. The way it would be represented to my kid(s) would be the same to how it's represented to the outside, vanilla world. Mr. Gallant and Ena's relationship in the Brie series is a good model:
“We keep to an informal protocol in our home. What looks informal to the outsider is actually formal between the two of us. We have transformed everyday phrases, titles and actions to have personal significance to us.”
Kayla Lords and John Brownstone of LovingBDSM also seem to have a good system going. I would try to emulate those two examples should I ever find myself becoming a mother.
Figuring out your tasks and rituals: Much like rules and other negotiated parts of your D/s relationship, you may want to incorporate tasks and rituals. Rules dictate behavior: behave this way, don’t do that, always do this. Tasks and rituals are often things you do for your partner or as a way to bring yourself (individually or together) back into your mental, emotional, and even physical D/s space. Tasks and rituals become more important as vanilla life interferes in your kinky one. These can be the things that make you feel your most Dominant or submissive self.
Can you think of tasks or rituals you already have or some you think you’d like to have that could be incorporated in a current or future D/s relationship?
I don't have any tasks (I'm single), but a routine is very important to me eventually. If you have any suggestions, please let me know.
Is 24/7 D/s right for you? Not every D/s relationship is meant to be a 24/7 relationship. Some people don’t want that level of responsibility (Dom or sub). For others, it just won’t fit in with their life. If you think you want it now or you might want it some day, today is the day to think about what that actually means. Like everything else in D/s, your 24/7 relationship can and will look different from someone else’s version.
Do you want to go to 24/7 at some point? Why or why not? What do you think that would mean for your D/s relationship?
Absolutely. Like I said in Day 2, I crave that kind of structure and submission in and out of the bedroom in my relationship. I think it would deepen and strengthen my D/s relationship because it wouldn't be a part-time thing anymore, but 24/7/365.
When a D/s relationship ends: We sincerely hope that whatever good, healthy D/s relationship you find yourself in never ends or doesn’t end on bad terms. But the reality is that, for at least some people, they’re going to experience a D/s break-up at some point. For submissives, it can be particularly hard as you’ve come to rely on a person to help guide you and then they’re gone. It’s not easy for Dominants, either. It’s important to know that many of the feelings you might experience are normal, and that you will recover.
Even though I ended my last D/s relationship, it still felt weird not having a Dom anymore. I think if I'm ever in a scenario where the Dom ended things, I'd have to remind myself I'm not a bad submissive just because things didn't work out between us (I have a tendency to catastrophize, it's not fun).